Almost three years ago I watched my first Mark Driscoll sermon, called Birth Control. At the time I was single, with no prospective suitor, and had no intention of requiring birth control for a long long time. Three years later, and I'm married, and this sermon has truly impacted my life.
When I first got engaged a year ago, I remember thinking back to this sermon and thinking only one thing: options. Mark Driscoll lays out all of the different types of birth control that married women may use. He also speaks truth about these options, eliminating those that are abortifactant.
Birth control is a huge decision for a wife, or wife-to-be. If you are considering your options, or have never really considered them, I would encourage you to do three things:
1. Pray: Sometimes the easiest option isn't the best for you. I will expand on that thought later. But, I think it's important to pray about birth control.
2. Decide Together: I don't think that birth control is a decision to be only made by the wife. Have an ongoing dialogue with your husband or husband-to-be about birth control. Pray together.
3. Research: Research the different birth control options. In this post I hope to include many resources that you can start with. Make sure that you trust the people that you are getting your information from. I would strongly urge you to do intense research if you plan on putting any pill or drug inside of your body. Pray while you research! Listen to your convictions.
While deciding which birth control option to use, I began to feel a lot of pressure from family and friends. My husband and I are 21 (me) and 22 (Dan). My husband will be completing his final year of university from September 2011-April 2012. My husband will work part-time, and I will work full-time, but we will likely experience some financial strain. We also live in a very small one-bedroom apartment, with little space for a baby. Many people were shocked that I was unsure about the birth control pill.
Most people think that the birth control pill is a no-brainer when it comes to birth control. Any other option is just too risky. This is so obvious, that when I called the pharmacy near my home to get a diaphragm, I was told that Canada no longer manufactures it. I continued to list alternatives to the pill that I was hoping to try, nothing was available in Canada. I was in a panic. At the time, our wedding day was only 1 month away, and all of my options didn't seem to be available. I began to feel even more pressure to get a perscription for the pill, but in my heart I felt God continue to convict me.
Finally, about 2-weeks before the wedding, I found my alternative. If you're interested please check out a link that explains about it is here. So far, the VCF has been effective and easy to use. I also have been reading a very helpful book called Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It is an amazing book that will help you in preventing prengancy, or getting pregnant by charting your fertility signs. I know some people who are reading this are probably groaning right now, and thinking this is hocus-pocus. I would just encourage you to do a bit of research, and read this book as well.
In the end, I found the birth control method that works well for me. Things may change in a year or two, and Daniel and I may just use the Fertility Awareness Method found in the book above. We continue to pray and seek God's will in our decison-making over this important topic. We know that God is sovereign over all things, and we aren't afraid to have a child if that is his will.
I tried to shy away from being too negative about the birth control pill in this post. The truth is, I don't know why God has convicted me so much about the pill. I would like to say one thing, before I end this post though. In my research, I came across this very clear and concise sentence of what the pill does:
"The Pill uses the body's negative feedback system to prevent ovulation and implantation of an embryo..."
(found on this website under "How The Pill Works")
What is an embryo?
An unborn human baby, especially in the process of development in the first eight weeks from conception, after implantation, but before all of the organs are developed (Dictionary.com)
I'd love to hear your thoughts...